Question:
Haven't you run into situations where the establishment side (I'm assuming that it would
occur more on that side) says, "No, there is no problem"?
Answer:
I can remember one small rural community near an Indian reservation where I was talking
to an institutional person, and at first I thought he was talking "tongue-in-cheek". He was saying
things like, "They are all lazy, and just living off government funds. And they are all alcoholics."
I suddenly realized this man was dead serious! I mean, totally serious. He had absolutely no
expectations for these children, so it was no wonder that Indian kids in that school district were
getting nowhere. I came back to that community later and tried to get in to see this guy's
successor, but he wouldn't talk to me. "Don't come, I don't have to talk to you." He called my
boss, and said, "Send Silke Hansen home." Of course, I made it clear that just because he chose
not to talk to me, it didn't mean that I would disappear and fade into the woodwork. But I never
met with him because he just didn't want to talk to the Federal Government. So it happens.
Question:
So what did you do then?
Answer:
In that kind of case I just make sure that the community knows what other options they
have. I make sure they know that they can go to the Office of Civil Rights and the Department of
Education. I tell them what state resources are available, too, and maybe help them identify their
issues similar to the kinds of things I was talking about earlier. I help them figure out what
kinds of things need to change in their community instead of just focusing on eliminating one
particular person. But ultimately, in reality, I went on to other cases that were more ready.
Question:
You mentioned at one point that the majority of cases don't go to mediation. What
determines whether a case is appropriate for mediation or not?
Answer:
Well, for a start, you need parties that are identifiable enough so you can say
"These are the sides." Sometimes that is not clear. Sometimes there is tension in the community,
but it is hard to define who, exactly, the opposing parties are. Second, you need specific issues
that are clearly-definable. One of the things that's difficult to mediate is, for example, if there is a
court case and a community believes that even bringing the case to court was an injustice, or the
disposition of it is not fair. Usually you can't mediate that. So in that case, I would look for ways
to bring some healing, some communication, some positive interaction among members of the
minority and the majority community. I'd just try to begin to get some common interests, some
common goals to deal with race relations in that community in general, without going through a
formal mediation process.
Now, I'm one of those people who starts off every case initially by saying to myself, "Okay, how
can I bring this to mediation?" It helps me from day one, minute one to have an agenda in my
mind. As I'm working toward that, it may become clear fairly quickly that the case is not going to
go to mediation, and that's fine. But if I start out thinking that it might go to mediation, I have a
perspective to work from when I approach the parties. If that doesn't work, then I ask myself, "Is
there some training we can do? What other kinds of assistance can we provide? Are there some
documents I can give them, or maybe I can just facilitate some meetings?" or whatever. But
usually, unless I am asked specifically to come in for some other purpose, I'll assume we're trying
to initiate mediation.
Remember the case I was talking about earlier, about tax day? In that case I was asked to come to
facilitate the meeting. I ended up facilitating another one similar to that about a month later in the
same community. And there were some great things that came out of that, so it was a very
rewarding and beneficial event. But that would be an example of where I didn't attempt to go
toward mediation, even though there were some pretty good outcomes that arose from that
particular situation.
Question:
When we were off the tape, you started to tell us about the "two taproot" theory. Tell us
about that.
Answer:
I heard this from Gil Pompa, so I refer to it as "Gil Pompa's theory" [Gil Pompa was a
former director of CRS]. In essence, what he says is that in racial conflicts, there are two taproots
growing simultaneously. One is a perception or belief of unfair treatment or discrimination. The
other is a lack of confidence in any redress system. There is the belief that, "Even if I complain, it
is not going to make a difference." And those two beliefs (or taproots) are growing in force, side-
by-side. Then there is a triggering incident. Rodney King was a classic example. And that
triggering incident then results in these roots really exploding. Now the reason that I said I have
changed it slightly is because I can't really see roots exploding. So I have changed it to say that
there are two fuses leading to a bomb, and those two fuses are constantly strengthening and
growing in intensity.
But even though these two fuses leading to the bomb are there and are becoming more
dangerous, it's not until that triggering incident that the bomb explodes and you have violence. If
you could have disconnected or defused either of those fuses, the triggering incident wouldn't
have done anything. If people who feel they are facing despair had an effective redress system,
you wouldn't get that tension. If you didn't have a perception of disparity in the first place, you
wouldn't need that redress system. But with both of those growing in intensity, that triggering
incident and it could be almost anything will then set it off.
And then once you have that triggering incident, I think one of the mistakes that we often make
in responding to that is that all we look at is the triggering incident. We try to resolve the
triggering incident, and we totally miss all of the pieces of those two fuses. We don't even look
at those fuses! But the fuses are still there, so unless they are dealt with, they are going to regroup
after a while, even when people don't even remember the triggering incident anymore. So part of
our job, if you are really trying to deal with and respond to a violent conflict, is to recognize what
those two fuses look like. Because if you can't deal with them, another triggering incident is
going to set it off again.
With the Rodney King situation, if you remember the disturbances or "civil disobedience" or
"riots" or "revolution" the semantics of what you called it became a very big issue those
events occurred not when Rodney King was beaten, even though you would think that the
beating would have generated anger. But rather, the incidents occurred when the redress system
didn't work. When the police officers were found "not guilty", that is when all hell broke loose.
The anger was about much more than the Rodney King incident, it was about these two fuses that
had been growing. Rodney King was just a triggering incident that set that off.
And you can look at other examples of that as well. But it's an illustration which makes sense,
even when you present it to institutional heads; they understand the importance of addressing
perceptions of inequality. Even if they think they are doing everything fairly, they realize that it is
in their best interests to not have those fuses growing in their community. So I say, "Maybe what
is needed here isn't labeling you as racist. Maybe what's needed is for you to have a better
opportunity to explain to the community what you are doing. Maybe the community just doesn't
understand all of the positive things. I can help you with that, too." But, having the illustration of
the fuses is a good way to help people understand some of the dynamics of a community. If I ever
get around to writing or becoming more re-aligned with academia, I would like to do some
research, at least paper research, which either supports or kills that theory, because to me it
makes a lot of sense. I would like to develop more material and resources which either support
that idea or say, "Silke, you are out of your mind. That might sound good from Gil Pompa and
apply there, but if you look at the broader picture, here is what really happens."
Question:
I am assuming that most of the time when CRS gets involved, it is because there has been a
triggering incident...?
Answer:
Certainly if there has been a triggering incident we will get involved, but we also get
involved before a triggering incident takes place. It is just as likely that there is, for instance, a
community that's just frustrated and has nowhere else to go. Maybe that's because they can see
that the lack of equity and the perception of discrimination is there, and they have tried some
avenue of redress that hasn't worked, so they come to CRS and say, "What can you do for us?"
And usually, especially if they're people that don't know us that well yet, but maybe just know
the Justice Department, they will expect an investigation and fact-finding and some kind of order
being issued. So we have to constantly re-explain how CRS actually works, but it's their one
hope for resolving this, because they don't see any other options. Frequently, there is a triggering
incident, but not necessarily. And especially in the case of people who already know us, maybe
from a previous triggering incident, maybe they will call us and say, "Silke, or Rosa, or Phillip,
we are facing such-and-such and so-and-so, and she won't listen to us, and this has been going on
and something is going to happen if you don't come." I remember my very first time in a
particular reservation I hadn't been in the region that long yet, and to this day I don't know
where they got my name but they called me and basically said, "If you don't come" -- and this
was a police relations issue "we are going to start marching in the streets, so you'd better get
down here." And it sounded urgent enough so that I did indeed get down there. We ended up
having a fairly lengthy mediation session that ended with a good agreement.
So ultimately, in this case, they were trying to avoid a triggering incident, but they were
concerned with what they saw as ongoing physical abuse by the local police of Indian citizens. In
their mind, anytime there was an Indian apprehended, they had to take him to the hospital before
they could take him to the prison because he was so badly beaten up; they always resisted arrest,
so they just said, "If something doesn't happen here, we are going to have a triggering incident
and we don't want that to happen. So Silke, it is all up to you." And I thought, "Gee thanks, I
appreciate that."
Question:
Do you have any routine assessments or anything you do, where you go into communities
and try to figure out how long these fuses are, or how quickly they are burning, however you
want to use your metaphor? Do you go in and assess the situation without being called in?
Answer:
Well, I do try to find out how much support there is in the community for a particular
perspective and for a particular perception. I do that partly to get a better view of what's going
on, partly for practical reasons I mean, if we are supposed to be dealing with community issues
and it is really just the Hansen family that doesn't like the way the local police captain is
handling things, it is going to be difficult to handle that as a potential mediation or as a
community conflict. So, just to see whether there is, in fact, a real community entity that wants to
deal with this issue, because if there isn't, it is very difficult for us to do anything. So, it's really
just to evaluate the depth of support and willingness to engage.
I might find that everyone I talk to whether in the local restaurant or at the local Post Office or
wherever agrees that such-and-such is a problem but no one really wants to do anything. Then
my hands are tied, too, because if I don't have two parties with which to mediate, there isn't a
whole lot that I can do. And in meeting with the institution... Now if that institution recognizes
that there is some problem in their relationship with the community, they might want some
training or some facilitation meetings, or some examples of how to do things, or approaches they
might use with the police department or the school. And of course, we would be willing to do
that.
But, it's difficult if there isn't a critical mass, and it doesn't have to be a large mass, but there
needs to be some core community base which wants to bring about the change. And the other
reason that that "critical mass" is important is that those people are going to need to keep things
going after CRS leaves. If changes are made in a community only because the Justice Department
recommends them, there's a real risk of the changes falling apart once the Justice Department is
gone. Unless you have a local body that is going to hold the right people accountable, there isn't
a whole lot that CRS is going to be able to do in the long run.
Question:
Going in a very different direction now, let's talk a little bit about how you build trust with
the people you are working with. One of the things that I am especially interested in is that you
are a white woman.
Answer:
You noticed.
Question:
I did. But the people reading your interview won't know.
Answer:
Quick story: I belong to a church out in Montebello which is predominately African
American; I am not the only white, but I am the exception rather than the rule. Anyway, our
minister out there is African American as well, and he was preaching about race relations one
Sunday the idea that color really doesn't matter, and how we ought to get along with everyone,
and how inclusiveness is part of what we pride ourselves on in that church. And that's true. And
he said, "You know, sometimes I forget that Silke is white," and I said, "Well, don't worry about
it. Sometimes I forget, too."
So it depends on the setting, it depends on who I'm talking to. Early on in some cases, I'll say,
"Look, I understand that I am a white woman who used to live in New York. What do I know?
So help me understand. What do I need to know to be able to work here? I don't try to pretend
that I know what you are going through because I don't. Even if I do, I am not going to say that I
know, because I recognize that I need to learn from you." And, most people appreciate talking to
someone who doesn't think they have all of the answers. And again, I do a lot of listening. Time
is no object. Those first few trips I schedule very few meetings, because I want people to have as
much time as they need to tell me everything that they think I need to know. If they get angry,
that is fine. If it takes a long time, that's fine. And if you want to beat up on the government, that
is fine too. You know, I have broad shoulders I can take it.
I also try to be very clear about what I can and can't do so that people don't have false
expectations, and I think for the most part they appreciate that. "Now, here is what I can do and
here is what I can't do." The other thing that I have found is that in many cases and particularly
in some of these grassroots communities people just appreciate you returning their calls, not
dismissing them, just acknowledging and validating their concerns. Even if I can't change the
racism that prevails in a particular area, it doesn't take terribly long to have that common human
denominator and get past the "Well you are white and I am not" or "You're Indian or you're black
or your Hispanic or whatever, and I am not" phase.
Question:
What about building trust between the parties, how do you go about doing that?
Answer:
I think a number of different ways. If I can actually get them to the mediation table and get
them to where they are actually listening to each other, then it is actually embarrassing how easy
it is to reach an agreement among the parties. That's because in most cases, they have never really
done that before. They have talked at each other and yelled at each other, and they've said things
about each other to the media and so on, but they have never really listened and responded and
then listened again. So once they actually hear what some of the needs and what some of the
obstacles are that each of them faces, and once they talk to real individuals and not "those
people" or "those administrators," it just comes to a whole different level.
There are certainly cases where the two parties never get to a point where they trust each other;
there are also cases where the parties agree to trust each other only because I'm there. Even in
those cases, though, they each agree to do something and that is a step in the right direction. So,
you know, I am not going to pretend that the parties suddenly become "good buddies" and live
happily ever after just because Silke Hansen was in town. But at least they have grappled with
one particular aspect of their conflict, and in that regard they have a better relationship than they
had before. That's a step in the right direction.
Question:
Would you say that having trust between you and the parties is more important than having
the parties trust each other?
Answer:
Ultimately, my objective is to have them trust each other, but I think it is difficult to
accomplish that if they don't trust me first. I am the one who is trying to arrange the situation in
such a way that they can trust each other, so I mean if I had to choose between the parties trusting
me and the parties trusting each other, I would choose the latter, because that is, after all, what
we are working toward. And although my ego likes being massaged as much as anybody's, I like
thinking that people trust me. That doesn't do me any good, though, unless they ultimately end
up trusting each other. But I think one grows out of the other.
Question:
Can you be an effective mediator if the parties don't trust you?
Answer:
I guess it depends. My immediate response would be no, but I guess it would really depend
on why they didn't trust me. If there is just some hesitation at first about whether or not they can
trust me, that's one thing. If they don't trust me for a particular reason, that's different. I think that
if they have a particular reason that they might not trust me beyond, "Can you trust any white
women?" it might be difficult. But if it's just, "We're not sure, but what the heck -- we will give it
a chance," well, that situation has possibilities.
I can think of one mediation in particular: The case was in court when I was contacted. The judge
called me and asked and of course it was the one day I came to work in jeans if I could go to
court that afternoon. I said, "Sure, no problem," and then I had to decide whether to go shopping
over lunch or go home and change. I decided that shopping would be much more fun; plus, I was
closer to the store than I was to home. So I went shopping so that I would look semi-respectable
going into court. Anyway, I was ultimately asked if I would be willing to mediate this particular
case. I had some familiarity with both parties I had, in fact, mediated a case in that community
seven years earlier, involving some of the same people.
I found out later that some of the institution representatives had felt a little bit as if they were
forced into that first agreement, so there wasn't a lot of trust at that point on the part of the
institution. They expected that I would bully them into an agreement; on the other hand, their
only other choice at the time was court. The community wasn't very optimistic, either -- they
didn't believe that mediation would be very useful with that particular institution, because the
institution was too hard-nosed, racist and inflexible, so they had very low expectations.
Nevertheless, when the judge asked the parties if they'd be willing to mediate, neither party
wanted to appear to be the unreasonable one. So they both said, "Sure."
That ended up being a fairly long mediation, but they did reach agreement. The attorneys then
prepared the settlement agreement and so on, which was an outgrowth of the mediation
agreement. The institution representative came up to me -- this was either near the end of the
mediation or right afterward -- and said, "Silke, when we started I didn't have any confidence in
you at all, because I had heard such-and-such. This really worked well, though, and thank you for
helping us on this." That person seemed very positive and appreciative of what I had done during
that particular mediation process, so it was interesting.
Question:
How many court-referred cases do you get?
Answer:
Not that many. I think that they are the exception rather than the rule. I have had a few
others in which I've contacted the parties after their case was in court. In one case, the parties got
a continuance from the judge after informing [her] that they were going into mediation. In
another case, the parties didn't even need a continuance -- it was a small community, and the
parties were pretty well-defined, so they were able to reach a mediation agreement fairly directly.
In cases like those, I have always managed to let the attorneys write up the final agreement and
settle it, because I figure it has to meet their standards at some point, anyway.
Question:
"They are getting paid for it, so they might as well do the work?"
Answer:
No, that is obviously not the main rationale, but it makes sense for the attorneys to word the
agreement in a way that makes sense to them. Only they know how they're going to present it to
the court and so forth, and so having them do the writing and such is much more efficient than
writing a draft myself, only to have them redo it. I mean, they have the gist of the notes that I
keep and the agreements that are reached during the mediation process, but they then fashion the
final agreement. I review it, and if I think there is a problem, then we reword it. But as I said, that
is the exception rather than the rule.
Question:
The next question that I have on here, we covered pretty well -- about what you actually do
in the mediation meetings. But the one thing I wanted to talk about a little bit more was the
extent to which you help the parties develop solutions. Or, do you really stand back and let them
come up with their own solutions?
Answer:
No, I mean if I do think I might have a solution that they might not come up with, I try to
frame it in a way that will ultimately allow them to take the credit for it. I don't want them to say,
"Well, we did what Silke suggested." Because then, first of all, they don't have the ownership in
it that they should. Second of all, if it doesn't work, it becomes my fault and not their fault. And
so I think that for the sake of the agreement, it is better if they believe that this is something that
they worked out and that makes sense to them. But if they are just struggling -- if I know that
they're looking for a particular solution -- I will put it in terms of, "What if you....?" rather than
"Why don't you...?" And I will try to just expand and put a different twist on something that they
already have, rather than suggesting something else entirely. I certainly make it clear from day
one that I am not there to tell them what to do; I am there to help them work something out, and
you know, if during the process of doing that I have ideas of my own, then I'll throw those into
the pot as well, but always in a way that allows them to take ownership of my ideas, so that they
don't end up saying, "Well, let's do what Silke says."
One of my favorite examples to give parties -- and again, if I do mediation
training, I often use this one -- is the one with the girls fighting over the orange: One wants the
rind for the cake, the other wants the juice to drink, so it looks like neither one can get the whole
orange. Many times you'll hear that example stop there, though. There's more: The girl who got
the rind -- if she hadn't gotten the rind, maybe she could have used vanilla flavor or almond
flavor or maple flavor. The point is that she didn't actually need the orange; she just needed
flavoring. And likewise, the girl who got the juice -- if she didn't get the juice, she could have
had milk or apple juice or water or coffee in my case beer but she was really just looking for
a beverage. So they fought over the orange, but the orange wasn't necessarily what would best
meet their respective needs they just saw it that way.
Part of my job, then, is to get the girls to see that the orange is not necessarily the objective;
rather, I need to get one girl to recognize that she is looking for flavoring and then investigate all
of the various ways that she might obtain that. Similarly, I need to get the other girl to realize that
she's really looking for a beverage and explore the possibilities of obtaining that. Eventually, you
may get to the point where the orange itself isn't wanted by either of them anymore, but their
interests and their needs have been met, and I think that's what differentiates good mediators
from outstanding mediators, if you will. It's that ability to help replace the rind with another
flavoring and the juice with another beverage, because once the parties can do that, their options
are vastly multiplied, because they don't even need the orange anymore.
And they pay me to do this -- I love this job. I sort of get on my little soap box and I apologize
when I do that but it really is exciting when people in conflict begin to see that there are ways
of dealing with their problems that they haven't even explored before. It's pretty exciting.
Question:
I have a theoretical question for you. At the Conflict Consortium, we have been working on
a theory of intractable conflicts for a long time. We have said that intractable conflicts generally
cannot be mediated (almost by definition) and that identity conflicts, including racial conflicts,
are particularly likely to be intractable. So as I was listening to your discussion about the orange,
I began to wonder, how do you get people to reframe a conflict from being about race to being
about something else?
Answer:
It's what I started talking about early on. You don't talk about race; instead, you ask, "What
are the hiring policies?" or, "What are the discipline issues?" You ask, "What does the
curriculum look like?" or, "Do you have access to the establishment, to the superintendent?"
Because even though the community sees the superintendent as being racist and as being the
reason why they can't get what they want, the real issues and I'm not going to say race hasn't
influenced what has happened there but the next level or the level at which this needs to be
resolved isn't race; it's policies and procedures, and access, and communities, and processes. It's
about interaction and communication, both of which were sorely lacking in this case. The race
factor just made it more difficult because both sides believed, "Those people are difficult to deal
with because of what they have been taught." Race was the orange, but it wasn't the issue.
The community could get a person of the same race in that position who didn't change the
policies, and that would be more frustrating, because now one can't even blame it on racism
anymore. But if they got somebody else who is white, but who changes the policy and is more
responsive to the community, that will decrease the perception of racism. And that will diminish
the taproot or fuse of inequality and disparity. So even though people see the issue as race, it
really isn't race at all.
Another example of that is the issue of sovereignty, though I haven't yet been able to get the
parties to understand this, and so I haven't been successful in reframing in this area. Sovereignty
is a big issue with Native Americans, particularly when it comes to law enforcement on
reservations. There is less and less willingness by tribal leadership to allow a non-tribal law
enforcement to have any kind of role on the reservation. This also applies in cases of hunting and
fishing rights disputes.
One of the biggest obstacles to developing some effective collaborative approaches to law
enforcement on and near reservations, and to hunting/fishing rights on and near reservations is
that both the American Indians and state officials approach it from a perspective of, "Who has the
sovereignty? Who has the jurisdiction?" What I try to get across is, "Okay, if you have the
jurisdiction, or if you have the sovereignty, what is it you want to do with it? What is it that you
want to accomplish?" If I could get them to talk about what effective law enforcement would
look like, regardless of who has the jurisdiction and the sovereignty, I really think they could
work that out. I totally believe that. But it is such a sensitive issue, it is very difficult to get
beyond that. The focus has been on the sovereignty, because it's a symbolic issue as well as a real
issue. Symbolic issues are very difficult to surmount.
There was one hunting/fishing case that I was called in to, where the state and the tribe had been
in negotiations but reached a deadlock. That's when someone called me. They said, "Well, so-
and-so says Silke Hansen claims she can do this. Let's call her."
"Oh gee, thanks a lot!" I keep telling people, "Why don't you call when you start these
negotiations, not when they fall apart?"
But I went up anyway, and they showed me what they had done, and I said, "I don't even want to
see that." I started putting stuff on the white board. "If you have regulations, what are your
objectives? What is it you are trying to accomplish?" And they were like this [she linked her
fingers together] they absolutely agreed. So once they agreed on that, it was just a matter of
determining what kind of policies each side needed to bring those objectives about. Both sides
gave a little, and at the end of a very long day, the people at the table reached an agreement.
That's the good news. The bad news is that when it went back to the tribe the tribe didn't buy it,
because they said it was encroaching too much on their sovereignty.
Another case in the same state ended the same way. It involved a similar kind of negotiation. The
parties reached an agreement at the end of the day, but in that case it was the state that blocked
the agreement. The negotiators went back to their superiors, who threw out the agreement, again
on issues of sovereignty. So there was no agreement.
But to me, it proves a point. You have to cut through and disregard the identity issues well, you
can't ignore these issues totally because they are there. But the mistake that we usually make in
most discussions is that we make racism or sovereignty the issue, and that is not the issue. The
issue is, "How can we get past that to provide effective law enforcement?" "How can we get past
that to provide good stewardship of our natural resources?" But the history of feeling attacked
and encroached-upon and the perception that "they are just trying to whittle away at what we
have, piece-by-piece," prevents people from focusing on the real issues. On the other hand, there
is the concern that the state "should not give those people special rights and recognition." These
feelings are so strong that it is very difficult to come from a different perspective. But I am
absolutely convinced if they could just throw out that "orange" and deal with the "flavoring" and
the "beverage," there would be much more common ground.
Question:
When you succeed in getting them to do that, what is the long-term result in terms of
identity and symbolic issues and race relations? If they can cut through those things to resolve
this incident, does it have a long-term effect on other incidents?
Answer:
Well, I think it would if it worked at all, but as I said in the two examples that I gave you, it
didn't work. The people at the table were able to reframe the problem, but their superiors were
not willing to do that, and the agreements were thrown out for political reasons. It was seen as
giving too much or losing too much in terms of sovereignty and jurisdiction and control. So
neither agreement held up.
I do believe that had it held up, it could have provided a good model, a good precedent for how
we can get cooperative agreements on issues like this. In fact, there are other states where there is
less mistrust between state and tribe, and where in fact we do have better cooperative
relationships. If you could either just not mention "sovereignty" or acknowledge that each of
them has sovereignty, and that the two separate governments of two sovereign states are reaching
an agreement, I think it would be doable. But there is so much tension and mistrust in this
particular setting that it is difficult to make that happen.
Question:
What about other settings though? Such as, for instance, the principal who was accused of
being racist, where you were able to reframe it in terms of discipline policy and hiring and that
type of thing? Would that have affected the long-term relationship on race relations in the
schools?
Answer:
It would, because the potential triggering incidents are less common, so the "bomb" is less
likely to go off. Now there is a precedent of communication. There is a mechanism and an
expectation that people will address and deal with problems before they get to the point of
explosion. So it is the redress side that's handled more effectively. Once there is a precedent for
communication, it makes a big difference.
Probably one of the most positive examples of that is the same tax day facilitation. There were
anywhere from 75 to 100 people in that room and at least as many when I went back for a second
meeting. But out of those meetings came a sort of "community board" which included Hispanic
and Anglo participants, including law enforcement people. They formed this board and I trained
them in three days I gave them three days of basic mediation training. I remember one of the
members of the group said, "Gee, you know, Silke, I think this is the first time somebody has
come and said, 'I'm from the Federal Government and I'm here to help you,' and then actually
done it." I thought that was a huge compliment at the time.
That board still exists today, and is still dealing with problems involving the police and
community relations. But they also began to look at other sources of tension within the
community. This community started out as very mistrustful. There were a lot of accusations
about how Hispanics were being treated by the law enforcement system. But now the leader of
that system is working with that Hispanic community to deal with education issues in the
community purely because people are talking to each other now. And they pay me to do that!
It's great!
Question:
What do you do when you get the parties to the table and they reach an impasse, and just
can't go forward?
Answer:
I can think of only one case where we actually got to mediation and that happened. It was a
court-requested or court-ordered mediation. And it was after days of work. I did what I usually
do: I usually start with what I would call shuttle diplomacy I hedge my bets. I like to know
what the parties are going to say when they come to the table before they come to the table. So I
do a lot of work with the parties individually before I actually bring them to the table. In this
case, they were in the same building, but in separate rooms. It became very, very clear that we
were not going to get anywhere.
So I ended up just telling the court, "Your honor, I'm sorry, I tried, but it's not going to happen
here," without saying whose fault it was. You know, I had my own perception, and I thought,
quite frankly, that one of the parties was probably foolish, because they could have gotten some
gains and they ultimately lost. I think they could have negotiated some gains out of this. So in
that case, I didn't have a clue of how to get past the impasse. But that's the only one I can think
of where parties agreed to mediate, but where they didn't reach at least some agreement.
There was another one that wasn't court-ordered, but which had been in court, and it included
some hiring and affirmative action-type provisions. The parties reached agreement on most of the
pieces, but not all of them. In this case, I think that part of the reason they couldn't agree on all of
it was that one of the parties was given false expectations by their attorney. The way we left it in
the agreement was that we stated the areas in which they agreed, and the rest went back to the
court and the judge would issue a ruling. In each case, what the judge ruled was what the other
party had offered in the first place. So, unfortunately for the other party the minority party in
this case they really didn't get anything more than they might have gotten if they had continued
to mediate and reach a settlement that way.
One of the things that I always do at the beginning of a mediation session, is get the parties to
agree on what to do if there is partial but not full agreement. If there are ten issues, for
example, and they can only reach agreement on seven, does that mean they go ahead and sign an
agreement on those seven, and leave the other three hanging? Or, if we don't reach agreement on
everything, then do we throw it all out and say that there's no agreement, period? I think you
want to get that understanding before they start. It's much better than getting half-way through the
mediation, only to have one party suddenly say, "I'm sorry, if we don't get such-and-such, then
all bets are off." So getting an assurance from both parties that partial agreements are acceptable
is one of the ways of avoiding a major disaster. Sometimes, just pointing out how much
agreement they've already reached then becomes an incentive for continuing the discussions.
I can think of another case in which there was huge mistrust and even hostility between the
parties. Some of the issues were complicated enough that it would require, or certainly benefit
from, some outside expertise. So in that case, what we did was have each of the parties
recommend a consultant who could provide expertise, and then we picked a third person within
that field of expertise. So we had those three consultants or experts meet, and come up with some
proposed approaches to dealing with the issues in contention. They did that successfully, and
then they were able to sell those ideas to the parties, because they had credibility. So that enabled
us to get them to agree to some approaches, and that would have been very difficult had we
brought in only one consultant. If we'd had only one "expert," both parties would have said, "Is
that consultant on their side, or is she on our side?" So having a panel of three worked very well
in that particular instance. It was expensive for CRS, because CRS doesn't have those kinds of
resources. But we did it in that particular case, and they did ultimately reach an agreement. So
that's another approach to get past an impasse.
Question:
And those three consultants met by themselves?
Answer:
Initially. And then they served as resources to the mediation process, until the overall plan
or outline was agreed to. And then when it came to finalizing you know, crossing the "t"s and
dotting the "i"s that we did ourselves, just myself and the parties.
Oh, I remember another case with an impasse. Here the parties had reached agreement on all the
important stuff. We were working on finalizing the wording, and we got to the point of saying,
"Each community and each ethnic group has a right to be represented and have its culture
represented in the curriculum and other processes at the school." But that didn't work, because
everyone wanted to have his or her own culture mentioned, but no one could decide what each
group would be called. For illustration, let's say the conflict involved and Asian group. So do we
say, "All Asians?" "No, no, it can't be Asians, it has to be Vietnamese specifically." But someone
else said, "No, not Vietnamese, but Southeast Asian." And others just wanted "Asians." So just
the wording almost blew the entire mediation.
We finally got around that impasse with some wording that I came up with: "All children
whether they call themselves Vietnamese or Asian or Southeast Asian or whatever, have the right
to have their culture and history reflected." So that way, it wasn't the parties labeling the
children, it was the parties acknowledging that the children would label themselves in whatever
way they wanted to. We came to this idea at about 9:30 at night, and the attorneys were like,
"What is this?!" But the parties were absolutely adamant. They would not agree on anything else.
So it's amazing what can sometimes sort of throw that monkey-wrench in there.
Question:
That's a great story, and it seems to me that it illustrates one of the theoretical ideas we've
been advocating that identity conflicts tend to be intractable. Because what they were arguing
about, essentially, was identities....yet your wording found a way around that.
Answer:
And, again, the reason that we found a way around it was by facing it, not by just working
around it. You don't minimize and you don't pretend that the identity issue doesn't exist, but you
try to figure out where the identity is important. I think that we got down to realizing that what
was important was that the children needed to not have their identity defined for them. And by
framing it in terms of the children calling themselves whatever they wanted to, we got away from
either party labeling them. So that identity issue was acknowledged. But it was acknowledged in
a way that neither party imposed their ideas of "identity" on the other, and that's where the
struggle was.
That was a very interesting case. When we started on that one, neither party had very high
expectations of reaching an agreement. So it was a very slow, gradual process, which we took
piece by piece. And I think they really surprised themselves when there was any point on which
they actually reached agreement. But any time they did, they thought, "Well if we can get this
piece, maybe we can get this next piece too," and by golly, they did. I'm not going to claim that
this is now a perfectly happy community where they all lived happily ever after, but the process
of going through that mediation was valuable for everyone, even though there was still some
mistrust between the parties afterwards. But in trying to implement the agreement, there was
some effort at a common approach, rather than a win-lose competition. And that was huge in that
situation. I think both parties would have liked to have been the winners, but it probably
wouldn't have gotten them very much.
Question:
Have you seen acknowledgment of a group's identity as important in other cases as well, or
the value of a group's identity?
Answer:
Well, to some extent, the sovereignty issue that I was talking about before the reason that
sovereignty is so important is to maintain identity. I don't think there is any group in the country
today that is more concerned about having their entire identity stolen than American Indians.
They really feel that they are under siege in many cases. Obviously, I can't talk for everyone there
any more than I can speak for any other group. But I think there is a real sense of it being a
struggle to hold on to their identity, and that's why sovereignty becomes so important.
Question:
Let's talk a little bit more about the issue of power disparity between the parties, and CRS's
role as a neutral. Even though you say you are a neutral, you also, in a sense, try to empower the
low-power group, do you not? How do you balance that?
Answer:
If you mean how do I justify that, let's start with that piece first. Very easily, because I don't
think I can do an effective job of mediating between two parties if there isn't some balance there.
So unless I help bring about that balance, mediation won't work. Of course, you can't necessarily
assume that because one side is a minority community that it's the powerless community. That's
another issue. But let's assume that, in fact, there is a power imbalance. Unless I can help balance
that, and empower each party to effectively participate at the mediation table, we're not going to
have an effective, successful mediation. So I explain that to the institution and I offer pre-
mediation training to both sides. I also use that as a way to help each of the parties identify what
their interests and concerns are, and what they hope to get out of this process.
Sometimes, that's particularly important for the institution, because they often start out from the
perspective of, "Okay, how much do they want, and how much of that are we going to give
them?" They rarely think in terms of, "What do we want, and how much of that are we going to
get?" The reality is that they usually do want something from the community, so this helps them
become aware of that. This is another trust-building mechanism as well because I'm
acknowledging that, "You need things too! What is it that you want? What is it that you're
looking for?" I want to make sure that both sides are heard and that we can talk about how each
side's needs can be met. I also let the institution know that it's in their best interests to have a
well-trained, capable party on the other side because it will be easier to deal with and negotiate
with them if they are capable. Part of what the institution is afraid of is that they will have a
group of ranting, raving maniacs on the other side that they can't communicate with.
So part of what I'm providing is some security, some format which is reasonable from their
perspective. I may say to the institution, "Now, you understand that party A is angry and they're
going to need to express that. But trust me, we're going to get beyond that, and get to problem-
solving." So I lay the groundwork for there being some anger. I hate to call it "venting," because
to me "venting" sounds too patronizing. I don't want to be allowed an opportunity to vent; I want
to be allowed an opportunity to be heard. So, even though the term "venting" might apply, I
avoid that word because it does sound patronizing to me. It has undercurrents of, "They're just
spouting off, and they really have nothing to say." In most cases they have a lot to say, but
they've never been allowed to say it and be heard before.
Once both parties understand this process and it's really part of the ground rules or at least the
"ground expectations" that's going to make the process much more effective. If I explain this to
the institution, they'll understand that. They also understand that it's going to take less time to
train a police department to come to the table as a team than it does the community (with a police
department, it's easy, they just look to the chief if the chief says it's okay, it's okay, even
though they're there as a team.) In terms of a community, they require a lot more ground rules, a
lot more preparation, in terms of how they're going to operate at the table.
If there isn't a clear leader, sometimes, I try to split up the leadership role. I try to have different
people on the community team take responsibility for leading negotiations around certain issues,
so that everyone is head-honcho for a while. But doing that, and helping them to identify their
interests and needs, is going to take longer than it does with a police department or a school
district. But the institution recognizes that when they're at the table, their time is going to be
better-spent and there'll be less time wasted if we do it this way. So they're not worried about the
time the fact that I might spend three times as much time with the community as I do with the
institution. They understand that it all helps to lay better groundwork for the process at the table.
The other thing that I have found and at first, I was surprised, but I've gotten now to where I
almost expect it is that when I have those initial meetings with the community, I get a lot of
that venting. I hear a lot of the anger. To some extent, it is almost directed at me. But I know it
isn't really it's just that I happen to be there at the time, and they're saying, "Well, you're an
official, so why can't you fix it?" I can see that there are some very angry, frustrated people there,
and I usually say, "Look, I hear the anger, but I want to make sure that you can express that anger
to the institution and help them understand why you're angry."
Then, when we get to the table, all of that anger has already dissipated to some extent. I can
recall at least one case where I actually called a caucus because the community was so calm, and
said, "Wait a minute. You were chewing my butt yesterday and you were ranting and raving.
What's going on here?" I almost had to remind them of the points that they wanted to bring to the
table. Now that they were actually at the table and communicating that was such a big
achievement already that the rest of their issues almost didn't matter anymore. My concern
wasn't to advocate for the community, but if those issues weren't brought to the table, that would
undermine the effectiveness of any agreement. So I thought it was important for an effective
agreement to make sure that all of that was on the table.
The preparation I did with them was important too. It gave them some confidence at the table
they knew they were prepared, they had an agenda, they knew who was going to cover what, and
they trusted me and the process, at least to some extent. The same was true for the institution:
they knew that I was going to control the process, they trusted me to keep the discussions on
track. That's empowering for both sides. The fact that they really are talking to each other as
equals is very, very important for making that process work.